Ending A Relationship With Someone You Love

It is always an emotional and difficult move ending a relationship with someone you love.Yes what really makes it that more difficult is when you start second guessing your self and thinking whether you are really making the move.Now it even gets worst when that love guilt sets in.You know that guilt feeling of causing heart break to the person you ones loved or may be you still love by ending or leaving the relationship. Though it is never so easy to breakup, with some forethought you can ease some of that pain and start figuring out where you are going to have the breakup-talk,when,what you are going to say and so on.


Do yourself a favor and think long and hard about it before you actually do it. Its very hard, sometimes impossible, to get back with someone after a breakup so you want to make sure that youre sure this is the best thing to do...before you do it. Dont go off in a huff because the two of you just had a fight. You dont want to have to swallow your pride and eat your words if youve jumped the gun and then had a change of heart.

Of course, if youre being abused, dont allow yourself to be talked out of it. This is the one time that you have got to stand your ground. Other than that, though, take your time while making your decision, no matter what you may think, the grass isnt greener on the other side of the fence. Make sure youre really ready for all that will happen after the breakup. Dont expect that youll go out and start dating everyone within a 50 mile radius. Its easy to be a little bored in a relationship and convince yourself that you can do better, but can you? Really? You better be sure.

If after all this soul searching youre still convinced that a breakup is the best way to go, than plan out the best way to go about it. Even though you want out of the relationship thats no reason to be mean and callous to your soon- to- be ex. Try to figure out the kindest and gentlest way to end the relationship. Oh, and dont be a schmuck and breakup with someone right before a major holiday or their birthday. Youve waited this long you can wait a few days more. No need to tarnish their big day with memories of a painful breakup.

When it comes time to talk to them, pick a quiet place and take your time. Dont lie to them, be as honest as possible (though if youre already seeing someone else you may want to spare them that detail) but dont back down. Youve given this a lot of thought and youre sure this is the right thing to do, so do it. They may cry, threaten and plead but you have to stand firm otherwise you ll just be repeating the whole scene in a few days or weeks, and who wants to go through that?

Once youve done it and the two of you are through, dont give into temptation and call them, and dont take their calls if they call you either. You both have to move on and since youre the one who ended the relationship its up to you to be the strong one and cut off all contact. You may be tempted to talk to them, especially if the whole dating everyone within 50 miles thing hasnt worked out quite the way you planned, but dont. Make a clean break.

Though you can not take away the pain and make things a little better when ending a relationship with someone you love,you can how ever handle the whole thing in a responsible and compassionate way so it might be a little easy for your ex.

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