"Unfortunately I am still in love with my ex but my ex is not in love with me or may be my ex is. what a mess.What should I do now?".If you ever found yourself thinking like this or if that even sounds a little like you, then you should know today, you are not the only one.You will not believe a good number of people still have touching feelings about their past love.If you watch MTV you must have seen the show X-factor.It is a good example of this fact.It is also a fact that if you are feeling like this probably your ex too is feeling the same no matter what he/she says.That how ever is true in cases where your ex really did love you ones.But how can you find out if your ex still love you, should you call them and let them know? Or, should you keep your distance and play it cool and hope theyll realize that they still love you?
Instead of risking humiliation by pouring your guts out to your ex - right before they introduce you to their new love, take things slow and get a lay of the land. This can be done in several ways, you can ask your friends to discreetly ask around about your ex. They can find out if theyre seeing anyone or if theyve been going to the same places that the two of you used to go (if so, this could be a sign that theyre hoping to bump into you. Especially if its a place they never went before the two of you got together). Just encourage your friends to use discretion. If your friends are the type of people who dont have a real strong grasp on discretion, this may not be the best approach for you to try.
Another way to find out if your ex has any feelings for you still, is to ask them. Again, discreetly. As we discussed above, you dont want to take the chance of being humiliated so instead of coming right out and asking use subtlety to find out. Call them up, say hi ask what theyve been up to. Its all very casual and youre not committing to anything, youre just trying to be friendly. It can be hard to take it slow when all you can think is Im still in love with my ex and my ex might love me too but you have to.
Dont start asking them about the people they are seeing. This will either come across as being an interrogation, or theyll guess your real intentions. Instead just forget that the two of you ever had a past and just be the fun loving, easy going person they fell in love with the first time the two of you got together.
Keep the reminiscing to a minimum unless they bring it up. If they do make a lot of references to the past its very likely that youve got your answer. If they really didnt still care for you its not very plausible that theyd keep talking about the past, as a matter of fact, its not real likely that they would have met you for coffee in the first place.
If they bring it up, or you think that they are receptive, talk about the two of you. Again, if it seems like the right time to do it, tell them that you still care for them. This doesnt necessarily have to be a confession of your undying love, its not unusual to still care for an ex, so if they react badly youre not on the hook. If they say that they still care for you or that they miss you, it might just be the beginning of the second chance for the two of you!
Using a little detective spirit in you to investigate your ex you might just find out that you will be thinking or rather be saying: I am still in love with my ex and my ex is still in love with me too!.
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You can pick up more of such sleuthing tips From: Jason Hicks the Underground Breakup Expert
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