Set Your Mind In Advance

By Yahseph Allen

Obtaining a positive character involves what you value, who you imitate and your willingness to practice positive behavior. Now that you know the basic steps to obtaining a positive character, the question is, how do you maintain it? To maintain your character you must constantly make choices that are respectful and compassionate towards yourself and others.

Maintaining your character must be done on a daily basis. Maintaining your positive character means protecting and guarding yourself from influences and choices that could lead to developing negative character traits. Sometimes, it must be done minute-by-minute. Maintaining your character requires controlling your thoughts, as well as, being prepared to deal with any situation that could compromise your character. With so many negative influences coming at you from all different directions, it takes effort, commitment, and determination to maintain your most valuable possession...your positive character.



Setting your mind in advance to maintain your positive character traits begins by first considering just how important it is to have a moral character. To be trusted, admired, respected and known as an honest, reliable, compassionate person is something you should want. Have you ever heard the saying, "Its all in your head?" Most people say it sarcastically, but theres some truth to it. Whether you are aware of it or not, every action begins with a thought.

The next step is to make up your mind not to be influenced to do anything that will compromise your character. In other words, determine in your mind that no one can talk you into doing something you know is wrong. This is called setting your mind in advance. For example, you know that stealing is wrong. Set your mind in advance to always respect another persons possessions as you would want others to respect yours.

A very critical aspect of maintaining your positive character is being aware of your thoughts. Thoughts continuously run through your mind which are significant in controlling your actions and decisions. A particular thing to be aware of is the negative thoughts that may enter your mind when you feel someone has wronged you.

Some people become angrier and angrier by perpetuating negative thoughts about the person and the situation. This then can lead to a course of action to satisfy the anger. Many people have been put in prison because they harbored negative thoughts that led them to violence or revenge in some way and caused someone to get severely hurt. It is important, however, when these types of harmful thoughts of revenge enter your mind, to immediately reconsider them and turn them into peaceful thoughts that will not lead you to compromise your positive character.

For example, if someone calls you "stupid" instead of immediately becoming angry and desiring to get back at him, change it to positive thinking by saying to yourself "After all, two wrongs cant make a right" or "I hope Im not contributing to his having a bad day." Using positive thinking to reevaluate situations has great potential in helping you maintain your positive character. Set your mind in advance to replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations and stick with it. Remember, your thoughts can make a difference. People who think positively about situations are more likely to make right choices that build positive character. Negative thinkers are more prone to negative influences and choices that corrupt a positive character.

Maintaining a positive character also means evaluating your choices every time to determine what character traits you need to improve. Then practice improving that character trait at every opportunity you get. For instance, you received a failing grade on your test because you went to the mall instead of studying. You knew you did not act responsibly; so, you determine that from this point on you will study first and have fun later or find joy in your studies.

Remember, maintaining a positive moral character means knowing what areas of your character you need to focus on. Sometimes or never are answers that should be taken seriously. These are areas that you need to improve on. So set your mind in advance to practice these behaviors until they become a part of your character. Look for opportunities to practice the behavior you want to improve upon until it becomes a habit.

About the Author:

Kelsey Simon is a recognized expert in character building. Visit Kelseys blog where youll find countless articles on how to foster positive thinking and loving relationships.

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Next time you want him to see the woman he fell in love. You might have come across him and let him get a good look at you. He will be stunned and wants to talk with you. Tell him that youre in a hurry, but can call later. Do not take his calls for a few days and let him sweat. When he finally takes his calls, the first thing I will say is that he was sorry for his actions. You are well on your way to getting your ex back.

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