A friend of mine once broke up with his girlfriend with a text message. And ' was a low, useless thing to do, and instead of giving him the ' hi-five had been waiting, I just gave a burst tongue and told him to grow. Seriously, what c is ' in clashes that turns guys in five years? Ive seen a number of good guys suddenly put his tail between his legs and behave like children when it came to ending a relationship. Something to do in right way just makes you feel panic. So if you want to be a Lord, no, if you want to be simply a man a break, do the following, and leaving text messages for immature idiots.
First of all, do it face to face. Dont do it, dont do it by phone, IM, text, through a friend, via a handwritten letter or a song on the radio. This is the most important basic rule, if ever there was one. If youre unable to tell her to her face that you want to end, as well as his view that ashamed of your decision, embarrassed, and immature. It makes you seem weak will and a coward, because you cannot hard and break the news so important to his face.
Secondly, tell her directly without coming up with a million excuses. If you start trying to justify themselves by playing a lawyer and tell her a thousand different reasons why its over, youll just be getting into an argument, since undoubtedly his version of each claim will be very different from that of the take. Of course, if you are breaking up with her for a reason, as he slept with your best friend, then tell. But if youve got thirty little excuses, skip all.
Ision, embarrassed, and immature. It makes you seem weak will and a coward, because you cannot hard and break the news so important to his face.Secondly, tell her directly without coming up with a million excuses. If you start trying to justify themselves by playing a lawyer and tell her a thousand different reasons why its over, youll just be getting into an argument, since undoubtedly his version of each claim will be very different from that of the take. Of course, if you are breaking up with her for a reason, as he slept with your best friend, then tell. But if youve got thirty little excuses, skip all.
Which means simply telling her that the relationship doesnt work for you anymore, that the ' love is gone, the romance is dead, and that, while still his respect and love her ', youre not in love anymore and you want to end. You are wondering why. Realize this: if she doesnt want to break up with you as well, for no reason will able to satisfy. There is no correct answer to ' because ' question, because in the end it all boils down to this: she isnt good enough for you anymore. She does not meet your needs, and you want to try someone new. And any attempt on your part to equivocate and make her feel better, that is only going to make things Messier and harder.
Finally, dont break up with her at home. Break up with her to be somewhere or in his place. This is the strategic decision, because if things get ugly and she refuses to accept your position, you can always leave. If you are in your House, and she doesnt take well? Do you have a place to go. Not that you have to drop the bomb and escape, but rather, if you have the feeling that the conversation began to spin in circles and become unproductive, that sometimes you have to cut short and simply leave.
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